One breath at a time: musings, poetry, reflections on and off the mat
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Life on life's terms
Sometimes things can be very overwhelming. Bad news in the media, at work, at home, in the neighborhood can make life seemingly unbearable and sometimes even horrible. There's a tendency sometimes to oversimplify, throw out suggestions such as 'make a gratitude list' or even shine over what is going on. While these have been things that I have done or throw out, they are not really dealing with what is. I believe that the essence of the statement 'Life on Life's terms' is recognizing the ups and downs on the roller coaster of life. We are born into this life and we will all eventually die. Whether we believe we will come back or not is irrelevant to the process of dying and grieving that those who remain will experience. There will surely be someone in our lives who will make bad, even horrible choices and their decision to act on those choices will affect our lives and the lives of people around us. Whether they are politicians or lone gunmen, we all have to live with those decisions. So while these events go on, and seem to go on forever sometimes, where I choose to live is in the now, allowing myself to feel the emotions that come up as a result of these events and staying present with them. By staying present with what is, not projecting what the future holds but rather allowing myself the experience as unpleasant and grieving as it is, I acknowledge what these events are. I create space for myself to be just a human being in this place called Earth, and know that I am here to experience what life has to offer, sometimes unkind and sometimes unpleasant. I know that sometimes all that I can control, is what I choose to respond with.